Dear friends,
Thank you for joining me on this journey.
It’s been quite a path to get here, and I’m excited to begin sharing more with you all.
In 2020, my wife Liz and I began our journey into parenthood with the first pregnancy conception. What an exciting time it was—early 2020, and everything was truly blossoming. Soon after, the world was shutting down for COVID-19—and so was this first pregnancy: miscarriage number one. The first lesson in letting go, in exhaling that anticipation.
Since then, my resilient, courageous partner, Elizabeth, has had seven more pregnancies—six more miscarriages, and one successful pregnancy leading to the most magical daughter and love of our lives, Feather.
This journey—this continued journey—has taught us quite a lot. While so many amazing occurrences have happened in the past five years (our daughter being one of them), the miscarriages, and the doubt and confusion around them, have been such a deep teaching for us—around surrender and resilience. Around trust and grief.
This is my way to start sharing the stories around being a father—a potential father and a current father—through pregnancy, miscarriages, the toddler years, and beyond. My hope is to create a landing place—for men and women navigating miscarriage, birth, parenting, and the longing in between. By no means do I think that I have all the information, but I recognize my “reluctant” experience in this field and am excited to bring in more real life stories and experts to put more meaning to all of this—for my own process and for anybody it may support.
If you want to follow along, I’d be happy to have you. If you have any comments, people for me to talk to, or friends who have gone through these experiences and would appreciate another way to release and also honor those losses—I am all ears and ready to take notes.
My heart has certainly grown through all this and I’m grateful to be at the place now to share and collaborate on the storytelling. And while it’s undoubtedly a challenging path for anybody that’s experienced this sort of loss, I’m especially grateful for the magic and re-defined perspective that can emerge from these most challenging places.
As Khalil Gibran said in The Prophet:
“Your joy is your sorrow unmasked. And the selfsame well from which your laughter rises was oftentimes filled with your tears.”